SELF LOVE GUIDE
If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. If I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.
- Nayyirah Waheed
Have you ever abandoned parts of yourself in order to belong? Have you ever lost yourself in the chasing of someone else? When did you forget about you and make someone else’s needs more important than yours? How many times did you say yes, when your heart really wanted to say no?
Often we hide our true selves, afraid that we would not be loved for exactly the way we are. We hold back from speaking our truth, out of worry that others won’t take our message seriously. Deep inside, we remain the little child whose survival depends on other people’s love, care, and affection. We are afraid if we actually ask for what we want, we would be rejected, ridiculed or abandoned.
As adults, we still look to external sources for love, validation, and acceptance. We search outside for exactly the things that we cannot give ourselves. We’ve been conditioned by our families and society to undervalue our own feelings and desires, to live in the safety of disconnection rather than in the vulnerability of love. We get used to the constricted feeling in our chest when we deny our own needs, and the lump in our throat when we give our voice and power away. Over time, our heart feels heavier, our body gets sicker, and our spirit is dimmer, as a result of the weight we carry.
What if you own up to the remarkable being that you are? Ask yourself, “If I love me, if I was enough, what would I do?” Can you intentionally, courageously, and unapologetically choose yourself in every moment? Can you be compassionate with yourself, love, accept and celebrate your whole, beautiful, messy, radiant, and perfectly imperfect self?
Your happiness is your responsibility and it starts from within. The love you crave from others is the love that you owe to yourself. If you are ready to embark on a journey to rediscover self love, click here to sign up for a complimentary 45-minute discovery session.